Michael Jackson: Guilt, Shame, Public Life


This reads as an interesting piece on Michael Jackson.  It is well-written and D Walcutt is obviously a fan with her two-cents to say in favor of Michael Jackson influenced by her psych training.  Pressure is a normal thing living in the US and people are prepared for adult life in the high school by being allocated a share of social pressures.  Each person is socialized to find a spot in the American society where one belongs and functions.  Each social category and spot carries a load of pressure of being that "type" of person in the adult society.  The higher one is on the social class system, the less the pressure and the higher the potential for pleasure or possibly peace.  The American social life regards peace as non-essential regardless of the social class but can exist.  The stress of living in the American society changes by many preprogrammed factors relating to gender, age, race, education and so many more but every position has a huge load of stress attached.  Michael Jackson was not an exception.  He lived a stereotypical life of a Hollywood worker.  His fame and success was not guaranteed but the pressure, the stress and the pain was automatic.  An average person can find pleasure in the success and fame not losing the weight of the stress attached to the package but some handle the situation poorly.  One can analyze the experience as D Walcutt has but the fact does not change success has to be managed and any mistakes or poor handling will bring consequences and some increase the pressure load many times more.


from World of Psychology by Diana L. Walcutt, Ph.D

Several public figures passed away last week, including Ed McMahon, Billy Mays, Farrah Fawcett and of course, Michael Jackson. Each of them made a difference for people and we don’t have to go into how they were important. The point is, they were and will remain important for years to come.

When I consider the tragic life that Michael Jackson led, and how he told his former wife, Lisa Marie Presley, that he was afraid he would die the way her father Elvis did, one wonders how many other people have had the internal struggles that Jackson did.

People get addicted to innumerable things. Alcohol, drugs, gambling, food, sex, shopping, video games—each is problematic and each can lead to destruction. But in Jackson’s case it was a combination of problems. He struggled with self-esteem issues borne from his childhood. He was anorexic, weighing a reported 112 pounds at autopsy (he was 5’10” tall). He was addicted to pain medications and was under the stress of having been in the public eye since he was 10 years old. That makes 40 years of worldwide scrutiny. He would have been 51 on August 29th. It’s no wonder that he was a tormented and emotionally devastated artist.

Even Elvis was old enough to understand what was going on when he first performed. Michael Jackson could not have known what it meant to become the sensation that the Jackson Five became. We can assume that he had a ball performing as a child. At least one would think so. But the stories of abuse and the chronic stress of being better than his last performance or his latest recording took its toll. He was a perfectionist. Many of us claim to be perfectionists, but we really aren’t. Not in the way that he was. Everything he did was examined by everyone, regardless of whether they had the credentials to criticize. That’s the nature of art, however. Everyone’s a critic and few are experts, but we judge nonetheless.

Many people can relate to Jackson’s problems. I see patients who are equally as tormented as he was, perhaps without the public scrutiny. But those who have suffered abuse, neglect, and tragedy can understand better than most of us how much pain he must have suffered. There is a constant internal dialogue in people who suffer. Some are optimistic, some pessimistic, some cynical. Michael Jackson appeared to be the optimist. Witness his California ranch, named Neverland after the story of Peter Pan. At Neverland, boys never have to grow up, never have to face the real world as awful as it can be. They are protected, kept away from those who would cause harm.

His predators were those close to him, much as they are for others who have suffered similar trauma. The “rag sheets” or gossip papers may have caused him pain, but he denied that they mattered to him. No, it was those he trusted, those he had to remain close to, who eventually caused his downfall.

We become obsessed with our looks when we are children. We learn about guilt and shame, two very different things. Guilt is about having done something for which we may deserve consequences. Shame is socially based and has nothing to do with guilt. We can be ashamed of the color of our eyes, despite having done nothing wrong to make them whatever color they are. Michael Jackson certainly appeared to be ashamed of how he looked.

Of what are you ashamed, having done nothing to deserve this feeling? Your nose, your body? What is this shame based on?

Where do we first learn shame? Probably about the time we were being potty-trained. Think about it: Parents may not mean to implant these feelings, but the “yucky” face they showed when we made a stinky, or the disappointment they expressed when we broke something sunk in. It may not have been our fault. We may have dropped the milk, just trying to be “grown up.”

Or, how about this: Boys who are crying often hear “you need to be a man. Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.” Wow. How does a 5-year-old even understand what that means except that it’s shameful for him to cry?

Michael Jackson may have been a famous man, but he was also deeply troubled, just like many “normal” people. He could have overcome his troubles, but unfortunately, his money may not only have insulated him from help, but attracted people who only wanted to use him and not protect him. There were many people who loved him, but he couldn’t seem to understand and love himself enough. And that seems to be at the root of many of our troubles, even if we aren’t famous.



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